She came up to me at the end of one of my sessions last year.
Something I said had struck a chord and she wanted to talk.
In private.
At first, we chit chatted. Small talk. About homeschooling and our children.
And then the floodgates came.
Her daughter.
Her 13-year-old daughter had been groomed by a predator.
Her 13-year-old homeschooled daughter whom they tucked into bed each night had been carefully and meticulously manipulated by a man in their neighborhood.
She was a quiet girl, insecure. She struggled with self-esteem issues. He posed as an older boy on social media. He craftily developed a relationship with her. He lavished praise and words of love on her. He made her feel valued and important.
She agreed to meet him.
But before the meeting, her parents found out.
They called the police.
The man was caught. The girl was safe.
But not really.
Since nothing happened, he was released.
And still in her neighborhood.
The girl was angry. Not at the man, but at her parents. She was thoroughly and completely convinced that the boy/man loved her. She didn't care that he was older. He loved her.
The police talked to her. Counselors.
She wouldn't listen. He loved her.
The family was caught in a nightmare that wasn't going away.
They had to watch her all.the.time.
They never thought it would happen to them.
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Trafficking, predators - not in our neighborhoods, right? We think we are safe. We live in the suburbs. We live in the country. We homeschool. We do all the right things, right?
Adoption has forced me to confront the ugly world of trafficking. Predators.
My children came from a system where many of the young girls and boys are groomed even in the orphanages. So that when they are given their suitcases at age 16, they go right from the orphanage and into the pit of hell.
Of course they think they are going into a better life. With promises of a good job and all the bells and whistles that go with that.
Other girls are taken before they even leave the orphanage. Men pay directors money and take their pleasures with them. It happens to the boys too.
They are the least of the least and when they disappear into the underworld - no one goes looking for them. They are lost to a system that will chew them up and spit them out when they are done with them.
I started reading books about it.
And my eyes were opened.
Trafficking isn't just about sex although it is a huge part of the industry. It's also about labor. Exploiting the poorest of the poor with promises of a job. Instead, they become slaves in a home or a farm or a factory. Forced to work inhuman hours under horrible circumstances with no chance of freedom.
But not in our country, right?
Not in our neighborhoods.
The more I read - the more I know that it is everywhere. A hidden world of modern-day slavery. Men and women preying upon the weak, the outcast, the one that no one is going to go looking for.
And I have asked myself. What can I do?
How can I help?
How can I take part in a human tragedy that grieves God's heart deeply?
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Last winter my son Ben met a sweet girl and the two fell promptly in love.
We have a wedding happening this year.
I sure did a double take when I found out what she did.