Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Love Wins

That's a quote that a friend of mine, Renee Tam, says any time something hard happens.  Love wins. 
It's simple.  It's profound.
It is true.
Maybe not always on this side of heaven... but in the end... when all is said and done... Love wins.

I've watched my friend, Renee, suffer in the last months as her brother has fought a hard battle with cancer.  I've watched her cry out for healing, beg for more time.  I've watched her grieve the reality that his days were numbered.  His days were numbered.

On Monday he died.

Renee Tam's brother.

He died after fighting for a very long time.

This is what she wrote on her blog:

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. 
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. 
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

My brother died today.

I can't do anything about Renee's grief except pray that God will bring peace and comfort to her hurting heart.  I have been grieving with her as Renee is my friend and I know how much she loved her brother. 

I can do something though.

As I was driving home from dropping Aaron off from school this morning, and praying and thinking about Renee, grieving with her over her loss, I realized that I could do something.

Renee and Steve are adopting a beautiful girl.  She's older and has begged for a family.

Mr. & Mrs. 

 They answered her call.

30603154931 Caroline (5)

Over the last few months, in the midst of watching her brother fight a terrible battle against cancer that ate his entire body alive, Renee has been also working herself to the bone making toffee and pies to sell so they can bring Caroline home.  Through her tears she has fought for her daughter.  Despite the agony of watching her brother's body wasting away - she has remained steadfast about getting Caroline home. 

I can't take away Renee's grief but I can put out a plea.  Please.  Will you help carry some of her load right now?  Will you make a donation in honor of Renee's brother?  I'm going to go out on a huge limb.  Please, Carry her load.  Please??  Everyone reading this blog.  There are hundreds and hundreds of you.  The Tam's still need to raise over 10,000 dollars.  Every single 5.00 donation helps.   They are deep in grief.  Let's rally for them.  Please!  They need us to carry them for a season.  Love Wins People. 

Will you make a donation and then leave your name here or on Renee's blog?  I want Renee and Steve to see all the people who carried them in this season.  I want her to know we are praying for her as she says goodbye.  Please. 

You can make donations through Reece's Rainbow HERE  or through Project Hopeful HERE.
Make a donation and leave your name.  Prayers, Bible verses, poems are definitely encouraged too. 


  1. Done! Lraying for this sweet family!

  2. We will donate and will be praying constantly.

  3. We were able to make a small donation, and will keep Renee and her family in our thoughts. -the Beckers

  4. Beautiful, heart-breaking poem - but love does last forever. The hearts behind this blog - and so many other similar blogs and similar families - and the Reece's Rainbow community are proof of that.

    Renee and her family are in my prayers, and I will see if I can't put that caring into tangible action.

    Susan in Ky
    Cousin to 2 from EE

  5. Donated to Project Hopeful. Thanks for letting us know of her loss. Praying for her family.

  6. REV 7:15-17 ..."For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them, and shall lead them unto living fountains of waters: and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes." I'm praying for your family and have send a donation to project hopeful for Sasha. Lynn from Illinois

  7. The sweet babe that is sitting on my lap came home from Russia. Her and I are sending our love out to you Renee.

  8. Thank you for sharing this sweet family and the opportunity to help a little.


Loving words from kind people make our hearts glad!